Should I be more promiscuous?

Online that is. :-)

My online worlds used to reside so neatly in their boxes. But with joining Seth's program and my public launching of my boss hiring project, suddenly things are spilling out all over.

The tight boundaries and rules I had about how I connected online now make me feel as though I'm being rigid, uptight, pedantic. And people don't like those kind of people. I'm working hard to not be that kind of person. But is mimicking the promiscuous connecting style of others the right way to conduct my connecting?

Now, my general rule of thumb has been that I had to actually know you in a professional capacity before connecting at LinkedIn. And I have to know you at least in the online sense before I'll accept a Facebook friend request. (Which is why there has to be a note!) And I'll talk to anyone on Twitter, but I only follow people (and companies) who are saying something I want to read. Which changes frequently depending on my mood.

So I'm left feeling horrible now because prefectly nice people whom I've never met are sending me LinkedIn requests. And I'm getting Facebook requests with notes from strangers. And I have no idea what to think about the more than 600 followers I have now on Twitter. (Who are all waiting to hear about ... what?)

Am I living in an antiquated world where I want to keep real life just a little separated from online life? Am I being highly rude by not being promiscuous?

Pondering this morning ...

• Defending vs. defensive
• Why people keep pushing for federal involvement in things that should be state/local decisions - gay marriage, medical marijuana, etc.
• How to make choices between widely varying options in my hire a boss search
• Throttling Blogger for four straight days of a problem with custom domain publishing
• Finally taking this blog to the big leagues with a custom domain, new template, self-hosting
• Just how crazy I am because I want to do everything
• Learning to play the ukelele
• The need to develop a new/better/stronger password
• What gets defined as news these days
• How immensely blessed my life is and I should thank God more
  

Car camo

Now that spring is here, my car is hard to see again. Not because it's under snow but because it blends with all the green around here. Ha! The greenery just feels different than it does in Texas - much more lush and vibrant. And far wider variety of plants since there isn't quite the same level of heat here trying to kill everything in sight.

The Susan who says "Pbbbt!"

It's been a crazy few days. Seth blogged about the SAMBA program, talking about my team project and my job hunt site, Susan Hires A Boss. On top of that, I launched a new business serving up games played on Twitter.

And at every turn, there was someone I didn't know waiting to tell me I was doing it wrong - usually in the nice private forum of email. To which I am learning to say, "Pbbbt!"

It's been an effort to be bemused rather than upset by strangers feeling they have the right to tell me my business plan is all backwards, my attitude is pretentious or my tweets are boring. There is no relationship there, so what makes them feel they have the credibility to take up the topic with me?

I have had comments from others - people I know, whose opinions mean something to me. They may have said exactly the same thing but because there's a relationship there, a bond, a history - I take time to listen to them.

To the rest of you, I say "Pbbt". I've apparently started the move from good student to headstrong visionary. I'll let you know when I get to mature and can say something else.

"Pbbbt!"

I'm hiring a boss

So my six months with Seth Godin is wrapping up soon. Which means I'm looking for my next adventure. And rather than taking the passive, lame-ass way of finding a job, I'm hiring a boss. Pass it on.